Assumption. It's a Mother.

So, I ran out of credit on my prepaid cellphone. Now, I know I just finished spouting off about how much money I'm making in my new job, but, well, I'm a bad spender.

Many people are incredibly angry with me for not contacting them in the last few weeks, including one in particular who matters more than most.

Now these people assumed the worst about me, that I'd just chosen not to reply to them. They just figured I was too busy to deal with them, and hadn't considered all the options. This is normal. As another example, I assumed they would just know I was out of credit. It happens a lot.

So here's the rub, when you're out of communication with somebody, what do you do to make sure you're not getting the wrong idea about their intentions? This applies to the internet too, people have been talking about being taken out of context, due to the inability to express tone via text. The first thing people do is assume the worst when they can't decide, though I find this problem is more prevalent in men than women. Wish I knew why.

So, here's today's homework. I want you to assume the best, in every situation. Everything that may or may not be happening, I want you all to sit there and figure that the best possible thing is happening. I'm not asking you to be stupid and unreasonable. Assuming that the one-ton weight heading in your direction isn't going to hit you wouldn't be smart, but when something looks like it's going wrong, I want you to realise that fretting about it and getting all worked up isn't going to solve anything. Ever.

Being angry at somebody who may have wronged you isn't good enough. Wait until you are dead certain that they're trying to rip you off/insult you/defame you before taking any sort of negative action. Listen to all the other sides of these stories, and hold judgement of any person or situation until you have some factual evidence of what's going on.